Telling Your Friends that you’re Transgender

Telling Your Friends that you’re Transgender

http://blog.feminization.us/crossdress-tips/telling-your-friends-that-youre-transgender/

In 2000, I shared Renee with one of my oldest and friends. For discretion purposes, I'll call him Blane - as I doubt he wants his real name published all over the world wide web.

I've known Blane since I was six years old and our friendship has endured a myriad of challenges and triumphs. He's a very bright and intuitive guy. I always knew he could handle knowing of Renee - but I waited a long time to share her with him. I'd already shared her with many others - including certain family members.
Why did I wait so long with Blane? Because his friendship means a great deal to me. Sharing your transgenderism with someone can change your relationship with that person. Sometimes, it will draw you closer. Other times, it can create a barrier to your communication and friendship. I wasn't in a hurry to risk one of my closest associations on a whim.

Blane did pretty well with it. I watched him struggle initially with her - actually more than I first thought he might. I suppose we all are guilty of underestimating the impact this can have on people. In a couple of weeks, he seemed perfectly at rest with all of me - and even joined Renee for a night on the town with his lovely lady. While the matter was still fresh on his mind, I asked him to write down the feelings he had, the challenges he felt, and how he arrived at being okay with it all. I felt it might help us to better appreciate what we put our loved ones through when we ask them to accept our transgenderism.

Blane agreed to share his feelings - on one condition: that I publish his letter exactly as he wrote it. To quote him: If I misspell a word - it stays misspelled - you can't change one word, one punctuation mark, nothing! I balked on this caveat for a couple of days. It's not that I don't trust him - he's my best friend. It's just that this little space on the Net is all mine. I wasn't in a hurry to relinquish my role as its Writer, Publisher, Queen Mother, and Editor Supreme. *grin*

I eventually relinquished - but only because of the higher good I felt his words might provide. I have written this introduction before I've even read his letter - he still hasn't finished it. If it's bad - don't blame me - I had no choice n the matter!!